Anonymous asked: I am 25 and feel like I have achieved very little. How much of a big deal should I make out of that?
You have achieved very little. It’s not a feeling. It’s a concrete reality.
But, look at people who did accomplish a lot of shit. Stalin. He got a lot done. I think Mao made an impact. So, there’s a model you could follow. Dangerous sociopath. Jesus achieved something. You could be nailed to some planks and maybe get the same effect.
People who really make a difference are unhealthy weirdos, or perfectly nice individuals who die young and violently. You really want to be either of those things?
Anonymous asked: Pay, a scenario - as a fellow non-user of substances, say you're out at a club and you get the come-on from a cute, but very drunk, zerson. Ze is clearly interested, dancing turns to kissing, turns to groping. Aside from the unsightly public display of lizard behaviour, what is your opinion on what happens next? Is it acceptable if your mental awareness is unbalanced against each other to take the zerson home? Does being upfront about your sobriety make any difference?
Fundamentally, I don’t see sex as something people ‘do’ to each other. In any consensual exchange between adults, there’s no exploited and exploiter. It’s a mutual exchange without qualifiers.
And one party being sober while the other has been drinking is hardly an absolute power imbalance. If we believed that to be the case, it follows that we’d only allow people of exact equal drunkenness to leave bars together.
That said, the word ‘consensual’ looms pretty hard in a situation where one or both parties are under the influence. To me, the line seems quite obvious. That mental space where someone is past buzzed, past drunk, and in a state unable to make responsible decisions, is never not apparent. And I’ve had enough sex in my life that I’m not a drooling ghoul about getting it on any given night.
But, plenty people have been as sure as I am and still found themselves in ugly situations. So, it’s worth considering that with all the different ways people can hook up in 2014, that drunk club style is something to avoid.
Anonymous asked: Theres this guy I'm trying to fuck, but when he wears glasses/grows his hair out he looks like my brother and this obviously bothers me. I'm just trying to do nasty things to this guy and possibly date him. What do I do this is awful.
LOOK INTO THE VOID, COWARD ASS.